THE SOUL OF ADOLESCENCE ALIGNS WITH THE HEART OF DEMOCRACY
Orphans,Rebels and Civic Lovers Unite
BY ALFRED H. KURLAND
The book is in part of memoir, incorporating the author’s personal experiences which align to those of the people he serves, and an exploration of the his path undertaken through stages of learning and leading over a period of three decades. It is also a roadmap and a manifesto making an argument that in order to understand and effectively work with teens, we need to treat them not as problems to be solved but rather as problem solvers for issues we share in common.
The book is a constructive critique of old paradigms about adolescence which dismiss, demean and sabotage their contributions and understanding of their true nature. It is education, utilizing modern scientific research, wisdom of traditional spiritual insights, and the current studies of youth development and community organizing. It uses an informal tone, embedding evidence within reflections of direct experience and experimentation. The tone is critical, but optimistic and hopeful.
Why read this book?
-We all are stuck in a society of rapidly declining positive outcomes in part because we have outdated and destructive paradigms about adolescence.
-When teens are invited in civic partnerships on a basis of equal ownership of the civic franchise, and by infusing the unique viewpoints of youth, both their personal development and the communities they serve derive beneficial outcomes.
-Social justice and civic reform efforts continue to value and benefit from evolving understanding of best practices in civic engagement. In the 21st century, our evolution continues to evolve as we incorporate the findings of depth psychology and spiritual wisdom. As we begin to understand and utilize the basic character of adolescent identity – the search, as an orphan, to find one’s authentic life purpose, empowering the rebel, with the deconstruction of false narratives addressing teen identity, and the reconstruction of empowering personal and communal relationship stories, and the celebration of the civic lover, as we forge an alignment of one’s most productive potential with the higher angels of democracy.
-Adult co-mentors who keep their inner adolescent alive work most effectively and empathetically with adolescents and co-create thriving communities.
EXCERPTS:
(pages 12 and 13): “The second scenario (describing the author’s personal experiences) involved the loss of my roommate, who was murdered, not because of any wrong doing on her part… The choice I made was between exercising hypervigilance (which has since been documented as common to those who experience trauma), withdrawal and isolation, or, finding one’s allies with common experiences such as mine, who would offer their embrace and support.”
“Almost every single member of Female Finesse and the Coaches Who Care (teen advisory councils to the Ivy League/Uptown WINs and the Uptown Team Dreamers) obtained college educations… This dual benefit was shared by Myra Linares, the daughter of ex-Councilman Guillermo Linares. Myra played the position of catcher for two seasons. She told me that she had come to her team as an extremely shy and introverted person. The demands of her position, to be vocal (and loudly so) as well as to direct her teammates on the field, had changed how she had communicated. (Later on in life) she had been assigned to a community affairs position for Governor Andrew Cuomo… It is only when we find our voice that we get to make the choices that have originated within us.”
“What separates co-mentors from traditional mentors is that these trusted relationships are no longer based on top-down relationship, with the adult being assumed to have exclusively valued sources of wisdom and preferable practices for governance. Co-mentors are in a side-by-side, or shoulder-to-shoulder relationship with teens, where adults respect and respond to their perspectives, knowledge and offerings given by teens… Co-mentors begin with the end in mind: Be eccentric, go forth as a navigator, and adhere to a dedication for enhancing holistic development of self and society.”